The unasked for boob grab

A couple of years ago, I went on quite possibly the worst tinder date ever. I was a tinder virgin and was quite nervous about the date, as I had only ever heard bad things (actually, my brother met his ex on tinder, so it can’t be all bad).

I thought I had found the only good guy on there. Let’s just say it ended up being a disappointment. Said guy, let’s call him *Thomas, met me at Devo on the Wharf in Auckland. It started off ok, but then after a while, after he polished off a whole bottle of wine, including the remnants of wine in my glass, he started getting a bit…well…odd.

I thought that perhaps he was just a bit nervous. But, really, being slightly drunk doesn’t excuse gropy behaviour.

We were walking back to my car when he said:

“it’s quiet here, that means I can do this!”

He grabbed me by the arm, pulled me into him and grabbed my boob. Like, excuse me? Thanks for asking!

Funnily enough, the people I told about it said that maybe he was nervous and just trying to be funny. Not sure what is funny about a bob grab, but ok.

Have you had an awful date before?

Author: kate

I'm a blogger who decided on a whim to create a magazine. The Corsetry is my brain child.

10 thoughts on “The unasked for boob grab”

    1. I know! That’s why I was so shocked when people were like ‘maybe he was nervous?’. Which part of unwanted touching do they not get? Thank you 🙂


  1. Oh, my gah! This is terrible and that behaviour should NEVER be excused. He was an absolute asshat … I’ve no advice regarding Tinder as never used it and not looking to as old and married, haha, but a kick in the balls is probably a good response to a boob grab! I’m sorry you experienced that and hope it doesn’t put you off from getting out to meet real good, interesting men. Good luck!


    1. It really was awful! I’ve definitely gone off Tinder now, all the experiences I’ve had on there have been terrible! It hasn’t put me off though. 🙂 Thank you so much!


    1. I know. I was so surprised when people tried to defend his behaviour….it’s actually terrible when you think about it! I’ve signed out of all internet dating sites now (and deleted them) because I’m sick of disrespectful behaviour! My sister met her husband online, but I don’t think that will happen for me!


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