A couple of years ago, I went on quite possibly the worst tinder date ever. I was a tinder virgin and was quite nervous about the date, as I had only ever heard bad things (actually, my brother met his ex on tinder, so it can’t be all bad).
I thought I had found the only good guy on there. Let’s just say it ended up being a disappointment. Said guy, let’s call him *Thomas, met me at Devo on the Wharf in Auckland. It started off ok, but then after a while, after he polished off a whole bottle of wine, including the remnants of wine in my glass, he started getting a bit…well…odd.
I thought that perhaps he was just a bit nervous. But, really, being slightly drunk doesn’t excuse gropy behaviour.
We were walking back to my car when he said:
“it’s quiet here, that means I can do this!”
He grabbed me by the arm, pulled me into him and grabbed my boob. Like, excuse me? Thanks for asking!
Funnily enough, the people I told about it said that maybe he was nervous and just trying to be funny. Not sure what is funny about a bob grab, but ok.
Have you had an awful date before?
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Wow! I have also had a one and only bad tinder date lets just say he was very racist about Jewish culture and living in a very Jewish area it didn’t sit well with me!
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That’s terrible. Racism is definitely a turn off.
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girl, this is harassment. Read my blog, you’ll feel better
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I know! That’s why I was so shocked when people were like ‘maybe he was nervous?’. Which part of unwanted touching do they not get? Thank you 🙂
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Jeez what an ass. Grabbing and groping is never okay but I still don’t get how in this day and age they still think it’s acceptable 🤦🏻♂️
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I honestly have no idea why they think it’s ok to do that to someone.
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Oh, my gah! This is terrible and that behaviour should NEVER be excused. He was an absolute asshat … I’ve no advice regarding Tinder as never used it and not looking to as old and married, haha, but a kick in the balls is probably a good response to a boob grab! I’m sorry you experienced that and hope it doesn’t put you off from getting out to meet real good, interesting men. Good luck!
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It really was awful! I’ve definitely gone off Tinder now, all the experiences I’ve had on there have been terrible! It hasn’t put me off though. 🙂 Thank you so much!
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That is never acceptable behavior whether he was nervous or not. He didn’t have permission and you didn’t appreciate it. Be careful!
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I know. I was so surprised when people tried to defend his behaviour….it’s actually terrible when you think about it! I’ve signed out of all internet dating sites now (and deleted them) because I’m sick of disrespectful behaviour! My sister met her husband online, but I don’t think that will happen for me!
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